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Just one of those days

umbrella-170962_150You know those days when you just don’t want to DO anything and you know you just want to be with yourself?

Well Sunday was one of those days.

I have these moments when my ‘spirit’ feels weak and tired and I just want to ‘be’ and not ‘do.

So I chose to honour my needs and I did just that.

Hence my silence till now.

At one point I had a moment of ‘But I’ve got to get my blog out!’ but despite that decided that I need to ‘walk the walk and do what I’m constantly advising you my readers to do, and that is to honour your feelings, wants, needs and desires.

Honour yourself

be-511557_1280How many times have I insisted that YOU honour yourself, that you respect yourself?

How many time have I insisted that you are worthy and deserving?

Well, I of all people should be able to honour the same for me;

I should be an example to you.

So I did just that and so this evening I am posting later than usual;  no guilt, no recrimination, no ‘should haves’ and I know it’s just as it should be…

The Divinity of Silence

bank-340779_150Most of Sunday I spent in silence. As I get older, I notice that silence is increasingly welcome in my life.

It’s comforting and in silence I learn, in silence I grow.

In silence I am learning to be with myself.

When I or we spend time with ourselves we begin to understand ourselves better. We learn about the thoughts that surface and hold us back from the reality and the life we really want, we learn to quiet those thoughts and control our thinking…

It’s in the silence that we learn what we truly want in this life, who we choose to become and it is in silence that we find the courage to choose it. The courage to choose happiness and not feel undeserving or guilty about doing so.

I’m still working on the courage bit!

The Challenge

At the start of the week I made a decision. I decided that no matter what happened that week I would stay feeling good feelings and I would insist on having happy thoughts. I decided to really test myself on ‘choosing’ my reality

At the end of last week, Thursday to be exact, a wonderful woman whom I got to know earlier this year and I had a long overdue conversation on Thursday, during which she advised me to watch a film called ‘Marvellous.’

IMG_0182It’s about a man called Neil Baldwin who refused to accept he had any learning difficulties and as a result lived so much in the moment his life became such a wonderful example of how your thoughts create your reality.

The line that really captivated me and re-affirmed my commitment to my challenge from earlier in the week, was his response when asked how he manages being so positive and cheerful all the time. He replied:

“I always wanted to be happy, so I decided to be…when something bad happens I just think about something that makes me feel good.”

Errr..Duh!

What a corker!

Genius…

It’s so obvious and yet so simple at the same time.

margarite-74886_640Thursday & Friday were tough and I could feel that there was growing within me the potential for me to slip back in to fearful thinking and if I’m honest a little panic. I decided to really focus on applying The ‘Baldwin Principle’ and concentrates on thinking (and more importantly – FEELING) happy thoughts to the point where I felt happy physically. Light and sunny and positive. I recalled memories and events that had made me feel good in the past and really immersed myself in them once more.

Well didn’t’ it work a treat!

By midday on Friday I received physical confirmation that my good mood was attracting positivity into my life, when I received a very pleasant surprise. An email arrived to say that some work I had done for an agency, some time ago (that I’d actually forgotten about) had been authorised for payment and the money deposited into my bank account. Whoop di do eh?

The Payoff

But guess what the BEST payoff was.

I felt great ALL DAYEVERY DAY! I was literally buzzing inside.

attractive-19161_640I had a smile on my face and a skip in my step so remember that we DO choose our thoughts, we CAN change them at will it just takes practise.

So, my advice to you for the rest of this week is collect a few memories and thoughts of events, situations, items, people who make you feel great and relive them.

Blanket yourself in the glow of them and smile, smile, smile your way to bliss.

For now…Happy Tuesday

Blissings & Much love

Insightful Angel

 

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Happiness and how to achieve it

Happy Sunday everyone!

This week I ruminate on the last of our most powerful regrets as we die.

It’s a biggie!

I wish I’d been happier

fitness-332278_150It pains me that so many of us today feel that happiness and how we gain it is such an elusive quality in our lives, as if it’s something that exists outside of ourselves.

The key to being happy, is first to believe you deserve it, to believe and really understand that it is the right of each one of us has the right to happiness in this life of ours.

We are not here to suffer.

We are not here to cry.

As I see it most of us fall into one of several types:

  • The one who chases it, believing external recognition or ‘things’ will make them happy
  • The one who believes everyone else has it but they don’t and never will
  • The one who believes to have it they need to take it from others
  • The one who believes the world is ‘agin ’em’
  • Then there’s the worst example of all the; ‘The Happiness Vampires: ‘ 

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There are two types:

  1. They’re the ones who attach themselves to bright, shiny, upbeat, positive people and try to rubbish, criticise, ‘pooh pooh’ and generally throw cold water on their bright, warm positivity bonfire at every turn
  2. Or else they hang around manipulating them into using their talents to help them (the vampire recognises the food source by instinct. They’re usually ‘giving types’ so they use the energy of the giver, their greater energy and experience to boost themselves, suck them dry and then leave… stepping on their ‘spent’ carcass as they go!

All types are hoping to create one thing…

That you’ll become just like them…

See I’m right!

Their deepest desire is for you to begin to work in the world the way they do, think they way they think and generally agree with them so that they can feel justified in moaning and crying and bitching and simply wallowing, yes wallowing in their particular point of view.

I’m sure we can all bring to mind someone who falls into one or other of these categories, maybe it’s you? If so, the good news is, you didn’t start out that way…you changed and so you can make a choice and change once again.

honor-guard-67636_150Conformity, Consensus and Compliance

We all want to ‘fit in.’

We humans are pack animals and need to live in communities and communities by their very nature, need order and conformity to survive.

What most of the types listed are hoping to achieve is a shift in your attitudes and behaviours that mirror their own. This serves then to prove that their choices and attitudes are correct and they can then shout:

‘You see, so and so thinks like I do; I MUST be right!”

baby-29483_150From the cradle

The moulding & shaping starts early.

As children we are taught from well-meaning and loving adults that our natural exuberance (too loud), or curiosity (ask too many questions), or need to express our joy (showoff)…

Are just Not Acceptable in certain circumstances.

Over time those circumstances become too many and confusing to mention and then we’re so confused we just give up on being our authentic selves. It seems too hard and causes too much trouble (for others usually!)

Alternatively, we seek attention in negative and destructive ways in an effort to  be ‘seen’ and feel worthy.

Adulthood then becomes either an endless search (once we recognise something isn’t right and we’re more than this) to reclaim the lost ‘authentic self,’ or else it becomes a life of quiet and perpetual ‘desperation.’

Living lives that do not serve us.

Living lives that do not thrill us.

Those that embark on the search, in more cases than not, do so in the face of disapproval, criticism or resentment from the wider community. There goes that need to get you to ‘comply’ again!

Yet, we have the means to make ourselves happy all the time, at any time.

 Just do YOU

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In my experience the more you…

  • Follow your heart; you DO know what’s good for YOU
  • Listen to your intuition
  • Do the things that makes your heart sing, that makes time stands still and puts you in the ‘flow’
  • Show Compassion
  • Show Gratitude 
  • Show Love
  • Contribute to your Community & Society
  • Allow: Vulnerability in yourself and others: Be authentically you and allow others to show you themselves authentically
  • Honour your body by eating well and exercising. Appreciate who you are. Accept yourselfman-65693_150
  • Be Still: Regenerate and recuperate by being Silent and Still at some point every day.
  • Recognise your journey is YOURS and yours alone, you have the right and the freedom to Create the path you take
  • DO NO HARM: Verbally…Emotionally…Psychologically…Physically

These are the keys to being happy.

It may seem relatively simple, but it is!

As I navigate this journey of mine, I realise that the simpler my life gets the happier I become.

The more I adhere to the list, the more I’m fulfilled and the more joy I feel.

We are here to find our happiness, we are here to find JOY.

Take a look at your life. Which areas of the list could you work on? Start today and make a change. Just start with ONE thing.

Take the step today towards your happiness and make sure that when the time comes for you to leave this earthly plane you have absolutely…

NO REGRETS!

Blessings & Love

Insightful Angel

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