Being You

Happy Bank Holiday Monday all,

Good morning again from a rather rainy Toronto & a cloudy London. Today I thought I’d consider the challenge of ‘Being you.’

There’s a quotation attributed to Coco Chanel:

‘Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself’

children-364625_150How do we obtain & maintain a sense of self when many of the messages we receive create and   persist in ‘reinforcing the notion that we simply not enough?’ Firstly, let me apologise for the fact that I have been out of range for the last couple of weeks and so unable to write to you all. As I began to write this it was Saturday afternoon and one of those rare moments when I’ve slowed down a bit. You know one of those dull afternoons when you feel listless and want to stay cosy inside. The TV was on for some rare ‘chilling’ time on the sofa with my sis.

In need of a fix

An advertisement comes on, nothing unusual there…but it was an ad for a dating site. The one that followed was for slimming aids, then Febreze, then a baldness cure and as I watched I detached slightly. A thought occurred to me: How can you ever see being you as ok when the overriding message is one of ‘Not enoughness?’ That to be seen, make a difference, achieve in ANY WAY we need to be fixed?

The deficiency paradigmmourning-360500_150

These messages sent to us from the plethora of images we meet daily, hourly both pictorial and written, is one of deficiency. We are perpetually bombarded with the idea that we need fixing, that we’re just not good enough and quite frankly it made me tired!

Too single, too fat, too dirty too bald, too old, not old enough, feet too ugly, not tanned, slim,  tall or rich enough…the list goes on and                                                     I’m sure you catch my drift.

Is it any wonder then that the lens through which feel able to see the world is rather foggy and a somewhat gloomy one?

I guess the strategy works?

ball-393834_150If we’re subdued into a state of perpetual fatigue, constantly using our energies to bat away thoughts of unworthiness, inadequacy and not enoughness, how can we hope to find the mental & physical energy required to strive, become educated, to love to sing, to laugh? To find the path to being you. Fully realised, authentic and content with who you are? I imagine many of you reading this will be feeling listless, lacking enthusiasm for you life and it’s not surprising as this message overload is constant. The best way to counter this is simple. TURN IT OFF!

Take the Challege

Never mind Ice-bucket challenges! I challenge each of you reading this to turn off the Tv, eshew newspapers & magazines and social media… give your mind & spirit a negativity holiday for a week and notice how you feel & how your thoughts change. Ok for you real info junkies try a day or two! Once you shut out the bombardment you may find yourself surprised by how satisfied and grateful you begin to feel. Once you tap into these feelings of gratitude & satisfaction you begin to generate more (much as you did with the feelings, of dissatisfaction). Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean ‘stuff’ won’t happen, but when it does, you’ll find your attitude to the ‘stuff’ shifting. Events will seem less disastrous and insurmountable. The satisfaction you now feel will extend itself to yourself and you’ll realise you’ve more than enough. You’re fine just as you are… right where you are.

Blessings

Insightful Angel

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Being Present

Happy Sunday all and greetings from Toronto!

Today I’m sharing what happens when we focus on being present. Being present has alternatively been called mindfulness especially by some who perhaps feel meditation is perhaps ‘ too hippyish.’

As I didn’t take my laptop with me in holiday, the next-few posts will be somewhat reduced as I attempt to use my Kindle to write and post and I’m afraid there are less pretty pictures for you all but still the heartfelt, and I hope, powerful messages designed to help you step into your best version of yourself.

Out of Control

bank-340779_150This past week I have been out of control. That is to say my daily routine is being dictated by someone else, as my sister organises events for us to experience and takes the lead as we venture out.

Of course this makes complete sense and let me reassure you I’m having a ball and truly enjoying a well needed break from the norm; but I noticed that being ‘out of control,’ ‘out of my routine,’ and being led, means I am being more present.

Hypereal

My experiences are more vivid, almost hypereal as I am paying attention to every moment. Every step taken is new, unfamiliar and so needs concentration. Every turn, every new event or place to eat, every item in the shops, every new person I meet, the sound their voice, how they enunciate, it all takes focus and this focus means the peripherals, what happened before that moment or what may happen after it take extra energy I can’t afford and so I am totally ‘in the moment’ at all times.

Focused.

Being so present is making each experience all the more enjoyable as I take in all aspects of every one; as a result I am more grateful for the experience as I FULLY experience the beauty of each moment.

So, just for today.

Practise being present. Focus on really concentrating on every moment and experience the beauty and the gift ofumbrella-170962_150 the present moment.

Blessings & much love

Insightful Angel

 

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